Communicating with Your Departed Loved One, Part 2

Here I was channeling an Old Italian Grandmother’s departed Mother! Even the asking was unexpected. You might be wondering if I was afraid that I would be taken over. Might as well say the words, was I afraid of possession?

I know many have that fear or concern with regard to opening, whether it is to hearing their own guidance or opening to channel. It’s not a wrong fear or concern. But to tell you the truth, in over 30 years of channeling hundreds of different energies, I have never had a bad experience. Now that doesn’t devalue or negate any who have had difficult experiences… or put to rest your question.

I have helped a few who were what you might call taken over. In one instance, a person began a communication with his departed grandfather whose spirit seemed to be around him.

Their communications went along over time until the grandfather showed up at inopportune moments and seemed to want to have a say in everything that was going on. The person tried to convince his grandfather to move on, at first politely and then demanding, but nothing worked.

We worked together with what I call “rescue” — helping a spirit-being release and move on to his or her next experience, while freeing the person who is still incarnate. Some people have called this exorcism, but that seems to be a movie term that raises the hair on the back of your neck and does nothing to help the situation. To me, there are two beings in this instance. One is the person who came to me, and the other is the spirit of the grandfather. Both needed help. We succeeded in both.

So, back to my experience with the Old Italian Grandmother’s Mother. The session lasted for about a half an hour. That might seem relatively short and if you have had any experiences with altered consciousness, then you know that time is rather illusive. While I was allowing the conversation, I had no idea how long it was taking.

This brings up a little question about the possession issue. That is, what is my choice and how can I stop something that is occurring, if I want to.

Firstly, I prepare. My preparation has changed a bit over the years, but I still asked the energies of love, light and truth to surround me and to assist that anything that was spoken be helpful and loving.

Opening to a spirit communication in the best way possible requires some reflection. I had the benefit of working with a teacher. A fear or concern simply says that your inner spirit is asking you to take good care of yourself. Learning how to open and set parameters can relieve you of those valid fears and concerns.

I believe that a stated intent and purpose, asking energies of love, light and truth to surround you and to assist you, is a good preparation and preventative measure. Like Pretty Flower used to say when someone asked her why it was necessary to shield, “It’s like putting on boots when you go out in the snow. Common sense.”

I talk about preparation, protection, purpose and intent at length in my new book, How to Access Your Clear Guidance – Anytime, Anywhere!