Communicating with Your Departed Loved One, Part 5

How do you begin to open to communicating with a departed loved one? Firstly, ask. A few days ahead of time, sit quietly and ask if the spirit that you would like to talk with would come forth to speak with you.

Next, reflect on what you would like to communicate to that loved one. Common statements include, “I want him to know how much I love him.” Or, “I want her to know she was the best mom ever and that I thank her for everything.” Or, “I wish we had a chance to say good-bye.” You’ll know what you want to say. It’s probably been waiting to be said for a while now.

On your chosen day, set aside a time when you won’t be disturbed, and have a notebook or computer ready to record the message that you receive. Surround yourself with love, truth and light.

Next, take some deep breaths and speak words like: “I am asking for the communication with my departed ________.” Then pause for a while. You might feel a presence, or you might feel nothing.

After a peaceful while, continue with your message, which might be brief or might be something like this: “________, I miss you. I wanted to tell you that I love you and to thank you for all that you did for me. I want to know if there is anything you would like me to do.”

Then again after a peaceful while, let yourself receive a message. Now this takes a little practice, especially practicing setting aside what your mind believes would be a message. When you receive a thought or a message, let it settle, making sure that it is clear and that none of the wording needs to be rearranged. Sometimes I receive a wording and after I pause for a moment, the real meaning flows forth and the wording changes.

When you think you have a message, write it down and then thank your departed loved one for communicating. Even if your mind is telling you that this isn’t real, still write down the message.

There are two experiences occurring. One is that you are receiving a message from a departed loved one, and the second is that your mind is trying to tell you that it isn’t true. Just go with receiving the message and then later you can decide if it was real or not.

Next, ask again, maybe in a different way, like: “Is there anything that you want to tell me?” Or, “Is there anything else?”

Pause and allow something like a drifting of a thought, an answer, to come to you. The answer might be as simple as, “Remember that I love you.” I suppose it’s the nature of being human to want more. Just remember that the message is real, that in this possible instance, your departed loved one wants you to remember that you are loved.

When you have finished, take a deep breath and relax. Reflect on the feeling that came to you during the communication and then write about it. Record everything. At the end of your recording, write the words “So be it.”

You have participated in a very deep and special experience. Don’t read a word until the next day. Sometimes feelings, remembrances and an inner knowing happen during the following days. Record everything.

Next, we’ll talk about whether to share the message, or not, and why.